I am a Trustee of The Association for the Treatment of Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity (ATSAC). I am also a General Member of the College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (COSRT) who is completing further professional training as a psychosexual therapist to work with issues of sexual function.
Biology, psychology, and social influences can affect our ability, desire, or arousal to engage in a healthy, satisfying sexual life. In therapy, we might identify the underlying issue, explore what is sexually satisfying for you, and consider how to help you reach or maintain this.
Sex, anatomical biology, is not exclusively binary (i.e., “male”, “female”). Intersex biology is not uncommon in humans. Biological sex and gender identity don't always match. Therapy provides a place to comfortably talk about your biological sex experience.
Gender includes the roles we take on socially as well as how we identify and present ourselves. Gender has more variety than a binary view of “male,” “female” (e.g., nongendered or third gender, or identifying as both male and female). Gender may be different from our biological sex. Therapy gives the space to explore your experience and questions of gender as it applies to you.
Sexual arousal may associate with specific parts of the body or other non-sexual objects. Where this is safe, consensual, and between adults, these may be incorporated into a healthy experience. Where the arousal causes personal distress, harm, is non-consensual, and/or causes significant negative consequences personally or socially, therapy can help you identify the root cause, and give you the tools to make changes towards healthier, happier habits.
RELATIONSHIP & COUPLES THERAPY
Relationship therapy focuses on making room for and expressing each person's perspectives, emotions, and needs. We focus on improving communication in a comfortable, safe environment. Habits that have developed in the relationship are identified and you have the opportunity to use new skills to engage a more positive, loving experience.
Compulsive Sexual Behaviours/Sex Addiction
Compulsive sexual behaviours are ones that are extremely difficult to stop and stay stopped even though the behaviour has negative personal consequences (e.g., on relationship, family, finances, career, legal standing, sexual function). Together, we identify your behaviour triggers and put a plan in place to disrupt an unhealthy cycle, and make room for healthy, satisfying alternatives.
Love addiction describes the experience of a desire so strong to be in a relationship that it leads to unhealthy relationships with oneself and others. Therapy supports you in exploring this desire, the impact on your life, and what you would like to experience in a relationship.
Who we are attracted to varies greatly for each person. Sexual orientation may range from asexual (not interested in sex) to pansexual (potential sexual arousal regardless of another's biological sex and/or gender). Therapy should never try to change your orientation. Rather, therapy supports your process of exploring and developing a healthy sense of sexual attraction.